Good Morning : ) Well, i received an email from the Ex about "Sunday's Conflict" and he said that he was dismayed that I accused him of thinking only of himself and that he was in his car driving to meet me to get our s, to do me a favor. He's having terrible back pain and no time to collect his thoughts to be able to accomodate "my wish" for writing her a quick note. I did reply...that given our two very different communication styles, that I was also dismayed that by him saying (prior to his email), that she was not his responsibility was not fair as he'd been in her life from age 5 to 14, and I can't stop her feelings of respect towards him, and that logically she may not be his responsibility, but ethically he is and it was the last thing I would have expected from him. I also told him that I understand it being hard to come up with something in 5 mins to say to her, but I would have helped him, instead of telling me that she was the furthest thing from his mind. So that the way he communicated the whole thing to me came off as cold and insensitive. (people can hurt me, but I can't tolerate someone hurting my kids, even when they don't know it ya know?) Then I told him I was sorry to hear about his back pain, and reminded him that I've told him I would help him anytime if he'd like.
One other thing I wondered about, is when the mutual parents of a child help each other, is that doing each a favor? like when the Mom or Dad takes the kids on a day they're not scheduled to have them, is that considered babysitting? These two things always made me wonder, because if indeed, we were married, wouldn't we just expect the other to take charge of one kid while the other parent took charge of another..hopefully I'm explaining myself well here, not sure, but let me know your thoughts...
