Need strength staying strong and what to do from here... While I didn't kick him out, he is living in the basement, and I did set the boundary that if he is going to his brother's, he is not coming home first, having dinner with us, putting daughter to bed and leaving as he originally planned. When he said he was going to his brother's on Thursday, I told him to go straight there, not to come home. He seemed very shocked at that. I didn't get to setting the boundaries about the affair because he said he hasn't seen her in a month, which I truly believe because he literally goes to work and comes home. I know he talks to her, but the conversation was better ended with me telling him I wasn't sure if I could be friends with him and I would need to think about it. Now in a few days I can go back and tell him what I think and set the boundaries for the a.
Anyway, lastnight, he called on his way home from work, something he's done sporadically over the past few weeks, but not consistently. Also, he called a little past 5, in the past month, he hasn't called/left the office before 6, but prior to the bomb, left at 5 all the time. I didn't answer, he didn't leave a message. He called back again 45 minutes later(has a longer commute) and I didn't answer again. He never would have called a second time, ever, he would just wait for me to call back or just come home and ask why I didn't answer. This is a complete 180, I would have never missed his call and if I did I would have called him right back. He walked in 15 minutes later. Asked what I wanted for dinner, told me a story about the dog, asked how my back was feeling, and intiated about 2 more small conversations. He has barely answered my questions over the past month let alone start some of his own. He took daughter and dog outside to play and go for a walk, came inside and got daughter ready for bed. This morning he asked me a few questions before leaving for work. When he talks to me, I am quick, answer his questions, but then look away or end the conversation, I am not engaging him. Am I on the right track and are these small signs to keep doing what I'm doing?