Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Tulsa, I know. I think I have the rose colored glasses on. I think I am convinced, that the worst thing that is going to come out of this is, I will be a divorced father of 2 teenage boys. The emotional damage will heal, in time, I'm sure. I think all of WANT things to proceed quickly, which ever way they are going to go. But, the harsh reality is, it is going to take time. I mean, in my sitch, she could of filed yesterday after she found out about the account-I don't know. I do have a question. If she does file, do I have to accept it? Do I HAVE to accept being divorced? I mean is that even possible? Can't they just give it to her, based on the fact I won't cooperate? Sounds crazy, but I believe she will have legal counsel soon.