listen to yourself. you come on here whining that you divorced your wife and now you're whining that you have her back. What do you want? Seriously - what exactly is it that you want? If there's no love, then why haven't you fostered it? Asked for it? Seduced her?
if you think it's all roses, forget it. no relationship is perfect. she'll never be your ideal and you'll never be hers. that said, the question becomes one of how much you're willing to compromise. Given that you don't really know what else is out there and you have a child with this woman, are you really ready to say you're positive you don't want this to work? Because ultimately that's what divorce comes down to - one partner decides they're no longer willing to make it work. And then the R ends and often there's no going back even if D was a mistake. Last time you made that choice, you reversed yourself immediately.
Listen, LNMW, I like you. Not sure why, but I do. But you're starting to come across as wishy-washy and naive. If there are problems, delve deeper. This is the first time you've mentioned "sex-starved". To me, that suggests that there's a lot more going on than you've let on to. Much more to address. Is that an angle that needs to be pursued? Is there issue avoidance going on between the two of you? What is she contributing to this whole mix? What would she say about YOUR actions? How about the friend - have you told her exactly how you feel about him? Can you truly appreciate and learn from why she might find him more stable than you?
I think you and she will form a strong and lasting union - once you learn to communicate to each other what it is you want, what it is that strikes fear in your heart, and what makes you uncomfortable. Bond with her if you want to make it work. Make her feel special and tell her what she needs to do to make you feel special in return. And be forgiving of those times when she doesn't do it, because she's probably forgiven you for the same thing.
I'm just saying. But let me mention, I've been on the other side and after two go rounds, there's no way in h*ll I'm letting my XW anywhere near my heart. She's cut off. Forever. Even though she is now behaving like she wants my support, understanding, and love - she'll continue to be alone. My XW treated me like you've said you've treated your XW. Your XW could decide the same as I have, so make sure what you want is what you want.
lodo
PS - sorry if this is harsh. I want you to succeed. I know it's hard. I know women can be frustrating and confusing. All you can do is be very, very clear about what you want and be very forthright and giving in order to foster a love that might encourage someone to want to return the same to you. If something bothers you, work it out but don't beat it to death. And if it isn't right, it isn't right. Move on and don't look back. Good luck.
