Haven’t been posting much lately. The week before Thanksgiving my mom had a minor stroke – a “TIA” they call it. Scared us to death but she was only in the hospital for two days. Other than a little difficulty with her handwriting, she’s fine. And that will return with practice. But she does stand a 10% chance of having another stroke within a year. I’m the only sibling in town, so I feel particularly responsible for her welfare.
Mom and I had Thanksgiving dinner at her retirement home. It is very nice. Dad provided well for her. Still, it was sad. If W had not left, the two of us would have been spent the day with her very large and loving family who love us both. I was really thankful to have her with me that day, but it was really hard. Just the two of us sitting there. She is showed so much strength. It was inspiring.
Nothing much happening between W and me, and I suspect nothing much different in the near future. We interact at the business, albeit it briefly, most days. I’m always confident, cheerful and brief. Since I stopped pursuing, I have noticed that on the rare occasion when I absolutely have to call (rather than text), her tone of voice is surprisingly cheerful, “Hi!!” I’ve known her for 22 years. I know she’s struggling. I know something is up with her. But I also know not to read too much into anything she says.
That said, I know that to have a friend, you must first be one. And I haven’t done a very good job of making friends on this board by following and commenting/encouraging on the threads of others. That’s always been a problem for me. It’s not that I don’t love other people. It’s that I don’t reach out. Funny, really, because people think of me as a “people person”. What’s up with that?
H: 50 W: 48 Married 20 years Bomb and separation: 9/12/09 A discovered 12/02/09 http://tinyurl.com/yctnhec
