It makes you look like a strong alpha male, in control of yourself and the household. It makes her see that you will stand for nothing less than respect. And strong men who demand respect are a turn on for women!
You have to remember, these are things that you needed to do to protect yourself. Thats what we want you to take care of first- You! Once you are in a decent place, detached, and safe, you can start focusing on DBing her!
Taking over the finances will not make you look bad as long as you keep food in their mouths and the lights on. Keep the bills paid and what does she have to complain about? She has a job to pay for her own entertainment expenses. Maybe you should set the boys up with an allowance, maybe transferred directly into their accounts?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
