WAW Using God

[pigskin]

With all due respect, Pigskin -- I don't think you have.

I went back and re-read your entire thread, in case I was remembering it incorrectly (I wasn't). Go back to mid-Sept., and re-read the advice that Coach and Thinker and Stuck (and myself) were giving to you back then. When I read your replies to them, all I see are excuses for your own passive behavior. You never really set or enforced any significant boundaries with your wife, (other than the "no texting OM from inside the house," which worked for you very well, btw.)

I don't see where you EVER took a strong stand with your wife, and steeled yourself thru the blowback that would come, to see what might emerge on the other side.

It was interesting, too, that you say in your signature that on Sept. 9th "Pigskin on the offensive." Funny, I must have missed those posts, because I never really saw any offensive.

Look, if you're tired and you want to give up, I completely understand. And if you want to divorce your wife, even the Church wouldn't blame you, as adultery is grounds even in the most conservative of churches. But please just don't say "you tried everything," when you haven't.

I think you're confusing Christian forgiveness with passivity and appeasement.

Puppy

You're right. I told her that contact stops with the OM or she moves out, and gave her a deadline of the end of the month. She then lost her job, which made it financially more of a stretch, but I didn't say "get out, whether we can afford it or not".

She's moving out this month. I told her absolutely no contact or my deal is off. Not sure what else I can do.