Mar,

My best advice would be to take ddays advice and be patient, give hime space, let him recover in his way. Speaking as a man, some of it may have to do with his image of himself. You've given him a pretty hard hit to his ego, so he's understandably (from a guys point of view) reluctant to risk that again. Reading your posts, though, I think there is hope. He just needs time. How much? Who knows. I thought my ex would need many months but that changed rapidly. Everybody is different; be patient.

It also occurred to me that the reaction to your daughter's troubles may be his way of ensuring that, right now, he doesn't become more emotionally attached than he wants to right now. Just a thought.

And yes, I cooked the WHOLE Thanksgiving feast and I make the best pumpkin pies (no canned pumpkin allowed!) on the West coast!

And dday, that is awesome! Wishing you the best!


Ron

M: 47
W: 50
D: 19
S: 16
Grandson: 21 months (now officially our son)
Married: 10/2/89
Divorced: 7/31/09
XW moved back home 11/12
Re-married 5/25/10