Another waw/mlc and I need support

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It's been a few days and some things have happened. W called yesterday from the C office to say that she wanted me to join her for a session because there were some things she had to talk about.

Later she called me back with second thoughts about paying a C for us to talk. The reason she wanted to talk to me was to apologize for last week's little fight about going to the movies with the kids. She realizes now that it was very hurtful and wanted to apologize. Little does she know that there have been many more more hurtful things than that.

She wanted to talk about our R. There was a lot of blah, blah, blah but I could really sense the confusion. I listened and validated with every ounce of my being. She admitted to being in a MLC. Said she loves and respects me deeply but doesn't feel any romantic love toward me. In the same sentence said she still wants a D but it can be what we want it to be. Doesn't have to be legal, can just be us splitting our time with the kids. Huh? Lots more blah, blah, blah.

The solution she proposed was for us to both have places to stay outside the house and we would share time in the house with the kids. That way they would be in a stable environment and minimize the impact of the situation. I am still against moving out of the house, but she doesn't want to leave full time again because of the disastrous effect it had on the kids relationship with her.

I have to admit that there is a part of me that wants to just move out to let her see that what things would be like without me around - completely drop the rope. Unfortunately I am conflicted because of the kids. I feel they really need me around them right now.

She expressed her frustration that I've been doing things on my own without telling her. She is afraid that I will not be there for her to help with things like taxes. I told her I have confidence in her ability to make it on her own. Maybe she is starting to see a little of the light?

Anyway, she made a dinner for me and the kids as part of her apology and actually apologized to me and the kids at the dinner table. I'll take it.