Uncross you fingers man. You are in for a world of hurt or does it not phase you that your wife sleeps with other men? 3 affairs and she is telling you she will do it again. There ain't no prize in this box of cracker jacks.
Stop concerning yourself with what your wife wants to accomplish and what she wants to succeed. Why do you want anything to do with that?
What do you want to accomplish? STRENGTH, CONFIDENCE, SELF-RESPECT are those your top three?