I realize that. I'm thinking permanently in that I think(but of course, am not positively sure) that will be my last straw. Not that I would push for a divorce, but I really wouldn't work on the relationship with H anymore. I also think that if H left again for him it would be permanent. He hates being in limbo which is where he's been most of this year.
How do you know IF it would be permanent? There is no way he knows. His thoughts are bouncing all over the place. That is why you see the normal and not so normal H.
Originally Posted By: kjensen
I have great respect for those who've had spouses come and go time and again. I just don't think I could cope well with that. Of course, one never knows til presented with the situation( I didn't think I could overcome infidelity but I did).
So you wouldn't be able to handle it even though you know it's all part of the process IF it happens?
Originally Posted By: kjensen
Just confused about H right now. He says nice things to me once in awhile and acts normal somewhat but no physical contact or even hand holding. No "Goodnight"..just rolls over and goes to sleep. Just don't get it and that stress is making me think the worst.
Again this is good evidence of his cycling behaviors. Are you expecting physical contact? Are you expecting him to say "Goodnight"? If you are then you need to stop. Your expectations are driving your rollercoaster right now.
I see you playing the what if game. You seem so caught up in if this happens or if that happens.
