You are right SG. That is exactly how I need to look at it. I almost sent this email to W. I am trying to debate whether or not to. It would probably do nothing other than make my W defensive and create tension between us. I truly am in a no win situation with that blasted MIL involved and my W's own decisions on top of it.
"I will let you take the kids tonight for your mom to make her night and Christmas better. I will postphone getting together with my friend.
I really shouldn't with as consistantly evil as your mom is towards me. To continue to exclude me from any and all events that involve my own kids, for everyone else to sit away from me with my kids because they are to gutless to stand up to her and say what is wrong is wrong when the kids are involved especially if it is for the kids.
But I am not heartless and evil like she is. So I will let her have something that would make her happy again at my own expense because even with as much as she has done to me and continues to do to me, I can't be the same way towards her.
I sincerely hope she enjoys her evening with the girls and the family."
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
