Definitely go to the P/T meeting. If she wants to be childish and walk out, then that's her problem.
I will definitely go, and she won't walk out. I know her well enough to know that.
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I just wonder why you are so bent on doing everything now, and not wait for Jan? Did you not send out a similar email a week or so ago? Got a similar reaction.
I sent the e-mail because I needed to turn this situation around, and in order to re-establish respect, I need to do it on MY terms. January is HER terms. If I bow to that, it just perpetuates in her mind her image of me as her puppet she can control, which has been exactly right, until now that is. She deflected the last e-mail by telling me what I wanted to hear just so she could see the kids on Thanksgiving, then acting just as childish as ever. The truth is, I didn't send it just to get a reaction. It's how I feel. I'm through with her crap behavior, and blaming me for the consequences of her actions. She has been helpful and nice about the kids, no doubt about that, but that doesn't change what she's done, and how she's treated me. She's been using her niceness about the kids as a shield to protect her from consequences, and I can't allow that any more.
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Don't get addicted to sending emails, hoping for wild reactions --- it may end up biting you in the @ss.
I won't. That's it. I need to stick to my guns now.
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Your W is projecting her actions onto you, I think. She sees you as the inflexible, reactionary person, and her as the calm, giving person. Of course, she's going to say she won't pay for it. You played right into that, IMHO.
I knew she'd say she wouldn't pay for it. I don't care about that. I needed to put her way back on her heels. She is openly refusing to take the steps necessary to divorce me, as some sort of protest over the reasons why she wants to divorce me. Incredible!
