Thanks. Well, yes, I have established firm boundries about the OM. Whether she honors those is entirely out of my control.
I think you are correct. I should not have apologized when I had done nothing wrong.
Initially, I made all the wrong moves. In the last week or so, in her presense I have maintained a confident, happy and composed front. I focus my attention on our children and myself. It really seemed to enrage her sunday night when I put earphones on while we were doing our sunday night cleaning routine. I have made great strides in backing off and not initiating contact for the most part. But I confess to the occassional relapse. But this too is a balancing act of being lovingly detached. I have stopped affection and ILYs. But if she does want to talk about something that is bothering her, unrelated to our relationship, I want to be there for her.
