She dropped the kids back off on Thurs at 7:30PM. Still no further discussion on custody. I've been waiting for her to call, not sure if I should just call her....
Anyway, I took the kids up to CT to see my buddy and his family. They really enjoy playing with my buddy's kids. His oldest is in cub scouts so we let him practice making a fire each nite so we could roast marshmellows. Very cool - I never did that before and neither did my boys. She never called the boys on Friday but I don't think my boys even noticed as they are used to her not calling.
On Sat we went out on a hike that his troop had cleared a path in. It was suppose to be 30 minute hike, but we got lost and it turned into a 1.5 hour hike. We were getting a little nervous as we didn't bring flash lights and the sun was setting. Fortunately, my phone gps worked so we just made a bee line to the nearest street. It wasn't too bad even though my 3 year old wound up sitting on shoulders after the first 30 minutes. My 7 year old really had a lot of fun. We capped off that nite with a fire in my buddies outdoor fireplace again roasting marshmellows.
I had the boys try to call their mother. They didn't want to but they did. I was sorry again for making them call when I saw how sad they looked when it went to voice mail.
On Sunday, we wound up playing football and then baseball with the kids (there was 5 of them). Before we left, we started a fire to cook hotdogs and filet mignon (ran out of hot dogs) for lunch. Overall the boys had a blast.
She was suppose to pick them up Sun nite and then bring them back Mon morning, but my 7 year old called her to ask if they could just sleep at home so they aren't bouncing back and forth so much. She was ok with it. Then he surprised me by asking her to answer the phone when they call as it made him sad when she doesn't answer. She said she didn't know that was happening.
She picked up the boys on Monday nite. I talked to them before they went to bed, like I usually do, and they really sounded tired. I did get to have a one on one day with my 3 year old as we moved him to part time day care with my job loss (he goes Tues and Thurs). We both really enjoyed that as it was only our second one.
She was suppose to drop our 7 year old off today so I could take him to school, but she was running 45 minutes late. I text her to find out what was going on and she blamed our 3 year old. Figures, she never accepts responsibilities for anything. I just told her that at this rate, she should just take our 7 year old right to school as he will be late.
She sent me an email on custody saying that since I'm watching them during the day during the week, she could take them each nite and we could alternate weekends. I responded saying that seemed like a lot of transitions (daily) for the kids to deal with. I again urged her that this was too important to try and discuss via email/text and asked her to pick an evening for us to discuss.
She responded with an email saying she didn't see how that was too much transitions.
I just responded with a we need to discuss this response and left it at that.
It's like talking with a child. What's even more funny is her best friend de-friended me from facebook.... I would cry if I didn't think it was sooooo high school.....
Now that all her friends de-friended me from facebook I thought about posting all the crap I have on her, but realized that would make me no better than her.... wishful thinking though.....
My boys did have a meltdown once though about how mommy isn't coming back and how they wished we could all just stay together again. I just hugged them and told them it is ok to cry and be sad, but the reality is that she is not coming back. I told them it was a grown up thing but I will tell them what happened if they want to know when they are older.
What really surprised me is that my 3 year old said mommy told him that she was cheating. I asked my 7 year old if he heard the same thing his brother just said. Unfortunately, he said he didn't hear what his brother just said. I asked my 3 year old to repeat it, but he wouldn't and asked me to tell his brother. I didn't want to say it to him for it come out saying he heard it from me so I just dropped it.
So, only 1 month left of 2009, can't wait till 2010.
I'm back in full swing today of sending out resumes, calling leads and recruiters. I did call a lawyer about potentially buying the bar/resturant that I want. Hopefully he gets back to me.
FIDO!
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
