? Right time for H to come home

[a new 2moro]

The changes are subtle.....well even when my H was showing signs, i kept to zero expectations. BND kept saying "hes right on target". My theory was to add a year(or 2) to anything that looked remotely promising.

One of the things I noticed a couple weeks before he asked to come home was him just staring at his beloved tractor(that during replay he had left out side to rust til I had someone put it away) He just stared at it like he was seeing it for the first time or in a whole new light.

The other thing were his beloved pets. His cat stopped sleeping in the bed he got for her 2 days after he left and became feral. His dog ignored him and walked away in his presence. As he started to find his way back they became more attached back to him. the biggest changes being that few weeks prior to his asking to come home...uncanny, the day he sat across from me in our kitchen asking to come home...they were all curled up around his feet.

Me, I just kept trying to pick up MY pieces and get a life , which I believe when he sensed the loss of my anger, acceptance of things,and my total forgiveness is when he began his "ocean liner" turn towards home. It was a wide swing but none the less a turn in my direction