"The only thing W has done is asked me to do D11's birthday together. She hasn't invited me to anything else. "
Let's put it this way. This coming from the woman who pretty much drove you away to another state. That small invite (even if it was for your D) is a big step. She's extended olive branch after olive branch to you, but you don't see it or the changes aren't enough for you or fast enough.
Coach is a great example of sticking through things with patience. Be happy when you see them and not depressed. Or at least as depressed as you sound on these boards. At the very least, your D's shouldn't see you depressed.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.