Any reason why you're so bummed about the holidays (aside from the sitch)?
The sitch pretty much is the reason. I loved the holidays every year prior to this one because it was family filled and we did it together, everything. Decorating, get togethers, events, etc. It was great. Now, I am not invited to any of it with W and her family and so I kind of bums me out.
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Your W is inviting you to stuff, asking you for things not demanding like before. If you still want to save your M, now is the time to do it. Plus all the goodwill that comes along with the holidays might soften her up a bit.
The only thing W has done is asked me to do D11's birthday together. She hasn't invited me to anything else. And she is only doing D11's Birthday that way for D11. I hope the goodwill that comes with the holidays does soften her up. But I think her heart is with someone else. It isn't with me. I would agree that now is definitely the time to save the M if I can get that time in to do it with. I am going to make the most of every moment I can with her.
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Right now you just sound real depressed. You've got alot of positives that you just can't see.
I hope you are right about this. I don't think I am that depressed so much as I just want to speed through the holidays and get them done with unless there is some kind of miracle that takes place in the M which I would be eternally grateful for.
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Detach so you will be able to see the positives objectively.
Trying to. I am spending time with friends this holiday season and trying to enjoy the moments with them when I don't have my girls.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
