7 months in but still a mess.

[TrentC]

So the last couple days have been less then stellar. We did have an argument over nothing really. If I read between the lines we were arguing about "why do you not love me anymore?" Both of us trying to tell the other, I would love you if...

The up side she said we can take some time and work on revising the parenting plan if we want. Between the lines she was saying "Do not sign this yet."

I believe she wants to come back but needs me to build the "face saving" path so she can justify it to her family after all the stupid lies and distortions she has told them.

Is this possible? Is this the mindset of someone who wants to turn around but cannot because of pride?

Possibly; but you're mind-reading and making assumptions. Pride be damned; if she's going to ruin your marriage because her ego wrote checks her heart won't cash, then I'd think twice about not signing those papers.

The best way to handle this is to ask her to be honest. Set it as a boundary:

"I am committed to working things out, but I feel like this divorce is being pursued because you don't want to admit that you might be making a mistake. If that's not true, then let's deal with this together. If that is the case, then I don't know that I want to stay with someone who puts their pride above their commitment."

As for the lies she told her family? She owns those. If she wants to stay with you, then she does get to explain to her family all of the stuff she told them.