This is one of those lessons. You know the lessons that might actually stick cause they suckk.
Are you at square one? No, you know more now than when you actually were at square one.
He says...let me boil it down to the most important part:
"I don't know."
Unless this man is evil...is he? Was he? Was he s adist when you met him?
Unless this man is evil, then he really doesn't know.
You cannot do what he is doing to you, unless you are a fukcing monster, or a naive high schooler just learning about relationships.
He really doesn't know.
You're parents are wrong, unless you said that he was evil. Stop talking to them about him. Cause if he does come back, you guys work things out, then everyone you talked to about him and you are now going to judge him, and that's a fun hill for him to climb.
Do better. Stop the begging, the I love you's and crap. Let him see what he is missing, don't tell him.
He wants space, this is about him him right now, you cannot give him space? Then why should he believe you are capable of the changes I am willing to bet he said he needed from you.
Stop pressuring him, you are. Go back and read what you wrote with a critical eye and see where you did pressure him, unless you want him to go away.
In your shoes...which I am not, I would send him a simple note, saying something to the effect of:
"Sorry I am trying, it is hard, giving you the space you need conflicts with what I want, I need to remember that your needs are as important to you as my wants are to me. Sometimes it all comes out, given a chance I know I will do better."
BTW, those are my words...I wouldn't use them exactly unless you talk like me.
A little insight? His terms...because more than likely he feels he has been living the marriage under your terms.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
