BIM, take your time. Gather your thoughts and your emotions. I agree, you can't make him trust you.
One thing to bear in mind... Although yours, Luv's and Mindfull's situations may have some similarities in the ways your H's are behaving, they are not the same. There are different factors at play here.
((((BIM))))
Stay strong.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT