He wants to come home....HELP!

[praying_in_GA]

Coach- yes, he did say what he needed to get home but he also said (later) that he was coming home no matter what I said. It reminded me of the advice that is given to the LBS that have left the house.

As for approaching him with my concerns, yes I have done that too. He understands and listens to me, but no action is made to help fix things most of the time. My concern about him and the bar without his wedding ring was basically pushed aside. I told him Sunday that he has not done anything to help fix the M since he came home and he agreed. He tried a few very very minor things Sunday then went back to the 'good buddy one armed hug' Monday. I think his dinner tonight is him trying. He said he is more involved in trying to make himself happy right now.

He has straight out said that If I am not happy with the way things are I can leave this time because he will not leave his house again. I cannot leave. It is not financially possible at this time or any time in the near future. He seems open to listening to my requests but when it comes time to execute them he becomes reluctant. I KNOW my expectations are too high and I am working on this now.

So, what do you suggest?