Can I save my marriage?

[Ready2Change]

HELP! H CALLED TONIGHT AND STATED HE WANTS TO COME STAY AT THE HOUSE. HE CALLED ME AT THREE IN THE MORNING FOR NO REASON THEN TEXT ME IN THE MORNING ASKING IF HE CAN COME STAY AT HOME AGAIN CAUSE HE DOESNT WANT TO STAY AT HIS SISTERS ANYMORE. NOT SURE WHAT THIS ALL MEANS. HE IS HOME NOW. IM NOT YET. WHAT DO I DO! HELP! I FEEL LIKE THIS IS HIS WAY OF COMING HOME AGAIN HE HIS JUST SCARED TO SAY IT.

Hi sweetie,

We are here for you. HUGS.

Your thoughts, words and actions are going to be very important right now. Your thoughts create your words and actions, so focus on the correct thoughts and everything will follow.

First thought to keep in your head.

"I am the prize. H will need to chase me. I will keep "Acting as if" because that is working. The other guys (even if they are only in your head) are treating me the way I deserve and H needs to show by his actions that he will treat me better. Until I see H showing lots of positive behavior, will I start to slowly open up to him.

Second thought to burn into your head:

I will listen to H, validate his words. I will delay my responses to him and get input from DBing group before responding.

"I can see why you would think that. I am not sure how I feel about that and will need time to think about that."