This was my husband too...its called passive-aggressive. Its like they are saying your feelings don't matter. Check out this articel....i know that it described my hubby to a tee!!!

http://www.gettinbetter.com/dirtywork.html

Me: 28
H: 32
1st marriage 4 both
1 1/2 year married
2gether for 9
1S: 6months
1stepson: 2yo