feel like giving up - talk to me!

[luvless]

Yeah our marriage is actually pretty good in general..not perfect but considering what goes on in others' I believe it is. We have alot in common and we are together alot. He still gets excited to come home and I still am happily waiting for him to come home. He isn't out - he is here with us - doing regular stuff. I like my H when he is himself. He is very accommodating - maybe he resents me for that huh?

When I tell him how it makes me feel he says he's sorry but, "it's his way" of dealing with stuff. I tell him that's not healthy and you should work on changing that. I tell him I feel invisible and ignored. He says, "I just wanna relax" and veg out in front of the tv. I'm totally ok with that - again I think I'm a good understanding wife but come on! days on end? NO I am not a piece of furniture and I am not here for you when you "want" me...that's not how it works and I've told him just like that.

Yeah my kids are older they know when we are fighting. We aren't cuddling or talking to each other so they definately know. My kids tell me they think their dad is a jerk - nice huh? The way he talks is just demeaning sometimes/his tone can be very bad.

We did hang out together Thurs-Sun. We shopped and did the days like usual but without any affection - it was all very civil on both sides. I resented every moment of being left to feel alone when we were together. He thought see? we spent all weekend together shopping etc - he thought it was good?

I want to disconnect so bad but I'm trying.