Thanks for stopping by - I've missed seeing you around the boards!
It really has been a release for me to finally get a good handle on the fact that he won't just snap out of it. This is such a slow gradual process. And I finally see the positives for what they are - good .. . for that moment. I believe they are genuine but he still is a mess. It is when I see the Big Positives (those changes in him over the past year plus that are truly crazy) change that I will have hope that he is on his way out. Until then, doing the best I can with what I have.
I was just realizing how much it takes to get me ruffled these days - so much more than used to. What a blessing - that is a change that I hope sticks with me.
I think it is a blessing that your S understands what is going on with your H - in some ways I think that makes it easier. On the other hand, I think my D is young enough to not remember what her "real" daddy is really like so that may be good also. Honestly, she is the only one who treats him almost fully normally these days at home.
