Luvless, I married a man who does the silent treatment, too. If nobody has experienced it they have NO idea how incredibly invalidating and depressing it is. To knowingly ignore someone is soo awful. It's one thing to be upsey after an argument and not talk but when it's something that happens for days, weeks, in a pattern, that is "emotional abuse." It's a ploy for control. The difference with my H and yours ist hat you say yours will still hold your hand at night and kiss you in the morning. When my H does it, he does not have any contact wit he at all: touching, talking, phone calls, text messages, nothing until he's over it and then something snaps in him and he starts talking to me like he never ignored me at all. With my story though, I moved out 2 months ago. If he is making any effort at all to still have communication with you (hand-holding, kissing) then you have an inkling of something going for you there. What did you H say when you told him how it makes you feel? Do the silent treatments happen every couple of years or is it often? With my H, it happens about every 2 months. I have it down to a science/clockwork.
