BUT, for example, and Puppy, please comment to me, my H told me he has no contact with her for over a month now, maybe 2, I asked him to send her an email, he said, it will look a bit awkward to send an email saying he wants no contact when they have no contact... Sounds acceptable to me . . .
My wife said the same thing, and fought me for over a MONTH about sending her no-contact letter. I never wavered, and eventually she sent it.
I cared more about efficacy than I did about awkwardness. It's imperative for the filandering OM/OW to not misinterpret your silence as some temporary "cooling off" period, that you are DEAD SERIOUS that the two of you (wayward spouse and OM/OW) are never, EVER to contact each other, ever again.
