It funny how I think about he anymore. I truly think about her like she is a different person (or robot). My W would be appalled by what this clone is doing to her family.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
I wonder...should I be trying to "be there" for W or just be dark.
"be there" when the opportunity presents itself.
never forget you are being watched.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I wonder...should I be trying to "be there" for W or just be dark.
"be there" when the opportunity presents itself.
never forget you are being watched.
Hi EB. This is a very hard time. I saw my W's "furnished" place and thought how nice. She really has moved on. She said that initially she thought so too. But that belief dissipated. Stay strong, show her that you can handle this.
Thanks Tristan. Its nice to hear that others have come back from this far into it.
I have accepted the possibilities, but would of course prefer reconciliation. W seems completely shut off emotionally. Even toward S to some extent. About an hour ago we spoke on the phone for a few minutes about S's rough night last night. She seems so clinical about it. I would have thought she would be more loving. She doesn't seem to take any responsibility for it. Mindreading on my part I guess.
Either way, its nice to know that some make it back from the abyss.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
Well you did have success before when you were going out and not being available for her. I would vote for going dark. Your usual pattern is to be there for her, feel her pain, etc. Try the 180. And remember to try it for at least two weeks.
And, it's only been five days. I'm seven months living in separate places and believe me H has changed. He was completely gone for a while in the beginning too. Take care of yourself and keep busy at this time.
Weren't we supposed to be reading books together? Hang in there - we're all still here for you.
