I am thinking I should of waited to do all of this until after I got back from R & R, because now she is going to be evil and vindictive in everything she does from here on out.
Stay focused, fight's on and we need to think clearly. So what if she get's vindictive or evil, how's that change how you handle things?
You need to keep you chain of command up to speed so they can have your back. Notice how she "thinks" she knows things, a few facts ruin her agruments. Great job not taking any bait. She can't handle you if you stay in control of yourself, focused, wise and confident.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.