As you continue to bravely confront your challenges, bury your comparisons & stuff to the paramour. I am fairly certain you outshine her by plenty. When this starts to happen you could feel pity for her and her indiscretions and hope and pray she is resolving the trouble she was in. Then be done with that line of thought.
Make sure you allowing God's love in. Take the time to love yourself and receive love from others all around you, not just H.
Be well and may many of the Lord's blessings continue to wash over you.
