Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[SoldierDad]

Well the spew began early this morning. She e-mailed me and told me she had contacted my rear det chain of command, and they told her that I had to give her my BAH (they were partly right). Well I already told my chain of command here, and researched what I had to give her, which is nothing because I pay the mortgage. I e-mailed her back with the regulation, page number etc. She simply wrote back - ok noted. I am so concerned about what she is up to/planning to hurt me. I am thinking I should of waited to do all of this until after I got back from R & R, because now she is going to be evil and vindictive in everything she does from here on out.