Hope and heartache

[ClingingToHope]

I appreciate your input Awest. I was looking for input in how to handle the request to "sit down" and talk about camps. The last couple of times we had talks like that she baited me into D discussions, which I don't want to have.

When she calls to talk about it, can't I say something like let's pick out the vacation times for the summer and save the camp discussion until after the holidays?

The camp issue is for both D10 and D7 and I understand they'll have to realize life isn't the same. They are going to start realizing that this weekend. Instead of going on their annual shopping trip to Chicago with W and their grandmother on Sunday, they are staying with me because W couldn't afford to take all of them, but she was able to scrape up enough for herself to go.

I had my final session with Dottie the DB coach yesterday and it went well. She better explained "as if." Act as if it's all going to work out in the end. She warned me that I tend to jump ahead in conversations and I need to stay focused on the issue at hand. That's what I worry about in having a "sit down" right now with W. I don't want talks about vacation to morph into another D talk.