Divorced and want to reconcile...

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but then the comment of not being his responsibility? That throws me through a loop, so I don't know what to tell you there.

As a re-read my reply, I have a thought. Since your D15 is obviously from a prior relationship, maybe your XH's self-defense mechanism is to make himself think he's "just a number in a succesion of 'dead end' relationships" with you?

Just a thought.