Maria, she was NOT a nice person. She knew exactly what she was doing and now the piper has come with the bill. He wants to be with you and you need to focus on that. Stop looking for things to tear you apart and look for things to bring you together.
Things maybe weren't great in your relationship before this happened(I am guessing) and he took the cowards way out and thought everything could be fantastic and different but it wasn't. Affairs are exciting while they are kept away in the dark. They are pretty sleazy by the light of day. I know you are hurt, maybe it is time to work on this issue with just a C and you. I do so want you to be happy.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory