Hope and heartache

[awest1217]

Sorry here, but so what if your girls don't get to do everything they want to do. At some point they are going to have to start realizing that they don't get everything they want. I understand you want your daughters to have everything you can possibly afford, but if you can't afford it, then they can't go. What if you or W instead of being separated lost your job? They wouldn't be able to go then either. Is it their fault? Should they be punished? No and no, but that is the way life is.

There are many children who would love to go to camps to learn about horse back riding and other things such as that, but can't because their parents are layed off and have been for months so they can't afford it. The girls will live without their camps.

Second, why are you always complaining about how D10 will be missing out, but not much about D7? This is something to really think about. You are constantly talking about D10 and how she will miss out, but what about D7?

Sorry for being harsh here, but this is something you are going to have to talk about and you need to prepare yourself for. W may want to set things up so she can start saving money if possible. It seems lately all you have done is blame W and complain. I understand you need to vent, but there is rarely anything positive and if you stay on this road you are going to become a bitter man instead of coming out of this a better person.

Many of us are dealing with the same issues you are, and although my sitch seems like it is going better, does not mean it really is. H is a master manipulator. He may not be talking as much to OW, which is awesome, but there are many other women he talks to online that we have to work through as well. For example, there is a girl from Missouri that I don't know that he calls or texts about once every other month. Why? Who is she? I have no clue, but at some point I am going to have to find out.

You need to get out of your funk and start really DBing. LRT is not about just ignoring W and not talking about R. IT is also about being kind to W when you do interact with her and getting help for yourself so that you can become a better person. Right now it seems to me that all of your interactions with W are rude and cold. You can have short conversations without being cold.

Like I said sorry to have to be stern, but you need to find a way out of this or things are never going to get better in either direction.