DB is all about doing what works, (as long as you are comfortable with that). In your sitch it sounds like you need for your H to remember the good times between you, and you are letting that happen. All I would say is don't let that go on for years....but I know from previous posts you have a sort of 'end' to that in mind.
It might be worth letting your son know why you are being so loving to your H so that he doesn't feel betrayed.....or actually cause more harm than good....although on the other hand, your H seeing how upset your son is can only help.
I am glad you had some good times to share with your H over the holiday weekend; it can only serve as a good reminder to him what he is risking. Don't be too disheartened that he saw OW on Monday. I found that my H wanted to 'let OW down gently' even though that is an impossible thing to do, (and even though I wanted to smack her head in(!)). These H's just don't want to be seen as the 'bad guy' even though deep down they must know it is a lose lose situation and somebody will get hurt. My H can see that clearly now but he just couldn't then!!!!
Carry on doing what you are doing. You sound very ' together'.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
