I know this is hard hon. I know it is. You're finally seeing SOMETHING and you want so badly for everything to be ok. Im not saying it wont be, but you really need to stop, take a step back, take a deep breath and look at whats going on with you as objectively as possible. EVERYONE here is rooting for you!
IF the OW goes nuts after he stops all contact, there is such a thing as a restraining order. You dont need a lawyer to file one and it takes about an hour. I have filed 2 in my time. If she violates it, then she goes to jail. Problem solved. You would be surprised how much damage control that little slip of paper can be. There is no reason for him to NOT stop all contact with her unless he is keeping her on the back-burner, or keeping you there.
