You are treading on thin ice here, and you know it. You can't teach this to him. He has to take it from a 3rd party. Can you get him to a Retrouvaille weekend? This is the type of stuff they are great at dealing with. You take the garbage there, you deal with it for a day, and you leave it behind. When you go home, it's no longer with you. And they will teach both of you to dialogue with validation. Cuz until you feel validated, the dialogue is not over!
