It's too hard sometimes

[TooLateForMe]

Destroying stuff has come up in the past, but usually in the heat of an argument. Considering her state of mind over the last few months, I wouldn't discount it at all.

We have an appointment w/ H&R block thursday. I'm taking some things home afterward. Who knows what her reaction will be as the big screen tv will be one of the things and maybe the computer. Her objection to that previously was that she has had to babysit my stuff for so long and it's unfair to take the valuable/useful stuff and not all the rest.

My objection to that attitude is that I was just threatened w/ the loss of my kids, so she can deal. Why should I trust her w/ the expensive stuff or respect her indignations. She demonstrated crass and ruthless behavior, so she can spend some of the tax money she so deserves on a new tv and to fix her broken computer.

On the other hand, this is the first contact w/ her in almost a month and I want to project the best attitude possible. Calm, assertive, confident, etc. Maybe even throw in some 180s like not reacting to obnoxious behavior or snapping when irked.

Any concrete advice would be welcome.