All, this is not the woman I married, I can tell you that. Yes, she has been combative in the past, not physical, but verbal. And yes, I put up with that sometimes. I am starting to see this side of her, and I don't like it very much. Evil, vindictive, spiteful. I dunno, I know I asked this before, but is this normal behavior?
Short answer... yes. It's "normal." And I totally understand and sympathize. My wife became spiteful, mean, nasty. After three months she started coming down off of it and started seeing me as a loved one again, if not a husband. But everyone's individual situation is different.
I don't think you've confirmed an affair yet right? But if it IS infidelity then there are all sorts of love chemicals altering her behavior that won't last forever. And you have become the obstacle to her "happiness" that she can demonize. It sucks. The woman you love is still there, but she sounds pretty darn inaccessable right now. Take care of yourself, plan carefully, and hopefully she'll re-emerge eventually. But if you take care of yourself and your kids you'll be better prepared for whatever comes next whether or not that involves her.
Age: 28 Wife's Age: 28 Relationship: 10 Years (dated on and off) Married: Less than one year Seperated: 1.75 years, finally served with D 4/30/2011
