Karen, I don't doubt that xW is really miserable down deep in what's left of her soul. But she has psyched herself against ever recognizing that, much less admit it. I know full well she uses others, more specifically R's, to cover up the emptiness that is inside her.
I know you can never trust anything a WAS says to you, but if I take even part of what xW has said to me as fact, then I can read between the lines to see that she placed the full responsibility for her happiness in our M entirely on me. That is a foolish thing for anyone to do, to attempt to rely on another mortal person for one's happiness. And yet I don't doubt xW has now pinned her hopes on OM-- and I am convinced that he certainly cannot and will not live up to her unreasonable expectations. In fact, no one can; it's impossible.
I like hearing news of how the "good guys" sometimes win. You and Yoyo and others are so personable and endearing, it's no wonder your friends will rally around each of you.
The sad thing is that my xW has ordered her environment to only include enablers and other supporters of her indulgences. She only now only associates with people who will either embrace or turn a blind eye to her faults. I strongly doubt she would ever subject herself to the possibility of being treated as the lowly social outcast because of her behaviors -- those are venues she will avoid like the plague wherever she can. She absolutely blew off and rejected my brother's wife, for example, someone she had seemed to have a lot of camaraderie with, that is, until she got wind that my SIL was separating from my brother -- then and only then did she secretly contact my SIL to try to foment an alliance and to encourage her to seek a D as well. Two years of the hostile and cold shoulder towards my SIL until xW thought she could take advantage of the situation in my brother's family. (Sadly, my SIL, after having expressed deep hurt and resentment against my xW for how my ex has treated all of us, decided to then side with xW after reconnecting with her. This was in June and I haven't had more than a couple of words with SIL since then. My ex has succeeded in alienating even a member of my side of the family from me -- which is something she swore to me she would never do. But then xW broke her wedding vows, right? So her word is worthless anyway.)
Enough ranting though. I now have to piece my PMA back together and keep moving onward.
