Serenity, I was catching up and was thinking the same thing Coach said. But in addition to a spousal support group for you, I'll bet the VA has an outreach program that would contact H, even telling him "it's a new routine thing their doing, etc.,"
But start with you, like Coach said.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
