The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

so, a quick update for everyone. I did something I probably shouldn't have. I went on a week long cruise with the wife and my daughter over the Thanksgiving week. I turned her down when she asked before but when she asked the last time she said that if I still felt the same way when I got back I could file and wouldn't I come and just enjoy a week in the sun and no pressure, just have a good time? I told her I would think about it and give her a call back later. So, I thought about it and said to myself what's the worst that could happen.

So, the cruise was ok. I spent some quality time with my daughter. She and I were snorkeling off the coast of Costa Maya on Thanksgiving day--rough, huh? The wife was hot and cold the whole week though. I knew that even though she said there would be no pressure that there would be some and I speculated correctly. Every show we went to, she bitched about where we sat but she wanted me to pick where we sat so, one night I asked her where she wanted to sit and she said I don't care so I picked and she said I can't believe it, I don't want to sit here, I can't see and you pick the worst seats and blah, blah, blah. So, I said, listen, I don't have to put up with this bs, you enjoy the show, I'll see you later and got up to leave. She said, oh, you're leaving? Why don't you get lost and stay there? So, I went to the martini bar and made some friends! There were lots of single women on the cruise! I had a great time talking to them. So, I went back to the room about 3 hours later and she was not there. So, I went to bed. About 30 minutes later, she came in and said that she didn't think I'd changed at all and that she wanted a divorce. I said, ok. She said, you there are people out there that actually want to be around me, there's even a guy that said he would marry me. I said, ok, so marry him then. She said, I don't want to, I want to work out my current marriage. I said, it doesn't appear that you do, didn't you just tell me about 1 minute ago that you wanted a divorce? She looked flabbergasted at that point. I said, I'm going to sleep good night and rolled over and went to sleep(oh, in case you were wondering, we had seperated twin beds in the cabin.

So, fast forward to the next night. She's very sweet and askin g if she can come home. And then the next day, she's very condescending and cruel. So, it was very hard for me to believe that she is in fact remorseful or at least it is very hard for me to believe that she wants to work this out. If the roles were reversed, I'm quite sure this type of behavior would not be acceptable from me.

So, what did this week give me? Well, it gave me clarity. Clarity, in that I don't think she's going to change enough to want to really want to make this work. It's almost like she's bipolar or just wants to be in control or something to that effect, I don't know.

Fast forward to today. She had told me yesterday that she was going to pick my daughter up from school to get her hair cut. So, I called her to confirm this afternoon and she said that she couldn't afford it? Wow, ok, no problem I'll pick her up.

So, karma is true it seems. she had her fun and know she is paying the price big time.