Slapping someone in the face hard enough that it hurts -- in fact, slapping them in the face at all if it's not very clearly in mutual play -- is abuse, plain and simple. If that's what's going on in your marriage, you have bigger problems than being ignored, and you have my sympathies. I imagine it would be very easy to despise such a person.
That said, we don't know what you don't divulge until you divulge it. So you might wanna dial back on the sarcastic 'tude.
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert
