My H and I are meeting tomorrow to discuss our finances. I am currently living in the house. I could really use some help on a few things such as: If I'm still living in the house is he responsible for half of the bills (lights, gas, cable, etc)? If things get "heated" does this effect my LRT? Anything anyone else has thoughts on about this conversation would be great.
M - 41 WAH - 41 D - 20 M-21 years T-24 years Separated - Nov 6, 2009
My H and I are meeting tomorrow to discuss our finances. I am currently living in the house. I could really use some help on a few things such as: If I'm still living in the house is he responsible for half of the bills (lights, gas, cable, etc)? If things get "heated" does this effect my LRT? Anything anyone else has thoughts on about this conversation would be great.
Keep it businesslike and civil.
If you're both in the house but separating your finances, you split the bills evenly -- just like roommates.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Im guessing that since we see you on here, you have internet? You can get almost all of the popular shows online now for free, a few of the major networks even have the whole shows on their websites. My TV bill is 65 a month, and I wont be a hipocrite and tell you that you should do it, because I love my satellite, but if I was trying to save money, that would be one of the first things to go!
I agree with Trent. Keep it civil and businesslike. If he, or you, starts to lose his cool, get out of there. Excuse yourself to the restroom, tell him that you arent going to be talked to that way. Keep things fair, Im not sure how it would break down as far as what he is responsible for, but I know that in a D they are often- at least here in Ak- expected to help you maintain your quality of life.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
I do have internet but it is connected to the cable.
At first I thought I wanted to meet at the house but then thought better. We will be meeting at a coffee shop. I agree with you blue, it will give me an escape if I need one. Also it lets me decide when I want to leave.
I'm so scared. I hate this. It feels so final to be talking finances and who pays what.
M - 41 WAH - 41 D - 20 M-21 years T-24 years Separated - Nov 6, 2009
I cant get cable out here in the boonies, so Im not that familiar with cable internet. Could you maybe find a way to set yourself up for a budget plan? Maybe a cheaper tv, or phone plans?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
KLC I guess it depends on what your going to do with the house. Are you going to sell it ? Or are you going to keep it ?
If your going to sell it and half the profit from that then it is only fair that you both pay half of the mortgage , taxes and common household expenses for its upkeep. ( water , electricty , gas , insurance ) TV , Internet. That should be on you. Or barter for half of that as well.
General upkeep , barter that as well.
My wife and I agreed on half of all expenses each month. We agreed on the date that the money goes into a joint account that all expenses come out of. Any additional expenses need to be agreed upon by both.
We also set a sell date on the house. Then we will divide what ever money we get in half.
We did what was fair.
If it gets heated it does not affect your LRT. This is your survival were talking about here. Do not back down. Seek what is fair.
