feel like giving up - talk to me!

[TrentC]

Do you even *like* your husband? I totally understand that you're hurt and frustrated .... but your language -- "freak", "immature", he "grosses you out", and you find his chosen topics of conversation unimportant. It sounds like you despise him.

At the very least, there's a communication and understanding gap. Some of this stuff may seem unimportant to you, but it may be important to him. Meeting him halfway is not a bad idea.

This is straight out of The Five Love Languages and His Needs Her Needs; if he cannot find the emotional support he needs from you -- quality time, words of encouragement, or whatever -- then he will find it somewhere else; that is how affairs start and marriages end.