H is coming to conclusions about OW's mental health and it is quite concerning, and given both what he has told me and what I have observed myself, I think he is right. I think she may be seriously ill. H, having done research on this, which I have also done on my own as well, feels it will be most likely to minimize damage to all, especially our children, if he can "not poke the tiger" so to speak. He is hoping she will do the blocking of contact with him. He thinks if she feels in control, she is less likely to lash out and do anything destructive to our family.
sorry but that is a crock of $hit.
he thinks if she is in control? if she is in control its not going to end. it is only going to get worse for you. demand 100% over and done. who is in control of your life? you or your husband's girlfriend?
idk about you, but winding down and active affair just busted means 'I'm gonna get a little more sex, maybe some anal. get all I can while the gettin's still good and get off on watching her beg for more. oh and there is always the wife she is still around.' I'm sorry but in your situation I would almost be controlling enough to say, 'I dont believe a word you say and if you want THIS to work get a new job NOW. hand in your resignation tomorrow. enough is enough.'
and honestly, what destruction? she has already destroyed your mariage. if she did cook the rabbit, how are you going to look your husband in the face knowing he started this? if she is a nut case, buy a bat.
