Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Thinker]

Thanks Hope4us, it's good to hear.

I've been cycling back and forth recently from a resentful "This is never going to work, I've tried long enough, I'm done" attitude to a positive attitude that says "Hey, start with a beginners mind and write off the past year. I'm in a better place now than I was, our R is better than it was a year ago (with an active A and lots of emotions) - just recommit to the process and keep going." Input like yours helps me move away from the first and toward the second.

...Again, it's terribly hard to do, to give and give and give without getting anything in return, but once you start down that path, it get's easier. And GAL while doing it is the key. Fill yourself up with other things,...

This is exactly what I have been struggling with and working on for the past month. Unconditional giving is easy to say and hard to do. We all human. Need and resentment creep in.

I have now tried to discuss this with two individual IC's and they both have the same reaction -- "Let Go and move on," they each say, "It's time to find someone who loves you"

I think it is time to try a third...