Not sure what to do

[TrentC]

It seems my W doesn't even want to be friends. I don't know why??? I said to her on Sunday night that I wanted to still be friends with her, but all she said was that we won't be doing anything together unless it involves our son, so I don't know how I can show here that I have changed. SHe won't speak to me unless she has to.

Then stop trying. No R talk, no pursuing; leave her alone and focus on yourself.

She will find out about your changes when she sees you. Or when her friend mentions that she saw you at the grocery store the other day and you looked good.

I have been given every reason under the sun why she doesn't want to be with me and that she has been unhappy for years.

Typical WAS script.

Don't worry too much about it; she is saying everything and anything she can to justify the bomb, both to you and to herself.

Which brings us back to taking the pressure off of her and focus on yourself. You'd be surprised how much that little bit of effort helps the situation.